3 Simple Shifts to Help Moms Build Emotional Resilience in Their Children
Hey mom, hey! Can we talk mom to mom for as sec? Cool, cause we all need some adult conversation every now and then, right?
Being a mom is amazing, but let’s be real—it can also be overwhelming, especially when our little ones are feeling all the feelings. When we think about what we want most for our kids, emotional resilience is often at the top of the list. Emotional resilience is that inner strength that helps kids bounce back from tough moments, and it’s something we can start building with them right now. Since, I am keeping it real! The sooner the better!
If you’re thinking, Where do I even start?—don’t worry! I got you! Here are three easy, practical shifts you can start today to help your child grow into a strong, resilient person while building your emotional agility. Let’s dive in!
1. Turn Meltdowns into Teaching Moments
We've all been there. Your child’s meltdown feels like it could shake the walls, and you’re just trying to keep your cool. But here’s a thought—what if, instead of dreading these moments, we saw them as chances to connect and teach? Meltdowns are usually just our little ones’ way of saying, “I’m overwhelmed, and I don’t know what to do with this feeling.”
Try This:
Validate First: Skip straight to comforting with a simple, “I see you’re really upset right now.” Sometimes, all they need is to feel seen before they can calm down.
Name the Feeling: Help them put words to what’s happening. Saying something like, “You’re feeling frustrated because it didn’t go the way you wanted,” gives them a head start in understanding emotions.
Teach Simple Coping Tools: Once they’re calm, ask if they’d like to try something new next time. A deep breath, counting, or even asking for a hug can work wonders.
When we approach meltdowns like this, we’re showing them that big feelings are okay—and they don’t have to face them alone. *Sidenote: When it's an unsafe behavior, you may have to get straight to the point! Know what I mean?
2. Use Affirmations to Build Confidence
Did you know that your voice becomes part of your child’s inner dialogue? Imagine the power in giving them words that help them believe in themselves! Affirmations are a simple, effective way to build their self-worth and help them feel like they can handle whatever life throws their way.
Try This:
Start with a Morning Mantra: Pick something simple like, “I am brave” or “I can do hard things.” Say it together in the morning or whenever they need a little boost.
Be Specific with Praise: Instead of saying, “Good job,” try “I saw how you took a deep breath when you were upset. That was strong.” This helps them feel seen for the things that really matter.
Model It for Them: Let them hear you using affirmations, too! If you’re feeling overwhelmed, say, “I can handle this.” When they see you believe it, they will, too.
Affirmations aren’t just words—they’re seeds of resilience that grow over time, becoming part of your child’s inner strength.
3. Model Calmness (Even When It’s Hard)
Let’s face it—kids watch everything we do. They take in how we respond to stress and learn that this is how you handle hard times. Modeling calmness, especially when things get crazy, shows them that calm is a choice they can make too. And hey, you don’t have to be perfect here; even a little calmness goes a long way.
Try This:
Deep Breathing Together: When you’re feeling frustrated, say, “Let’s take a few deep breaths together.” Not only does it help you reset, but it shows them how to use this skill.
Talk About Your Process: If you’re having a hard day, try saying, “Today was tough, so I’m going to take a few minutes to relax.” It shows them that everyone needs self-care, and it’s okay to take a breather.
Use Visuals: A calm-down bottle filled with glitter, or a feelings chart can be fun tools. When they see you use these too, it feels like a shared moment instead of just something for them.
These small moments where we show calmness, even when we’re not feeling it perfectly, give our kids a safe blueprint for handling emotions.
Building emotional resilience is a journey for you and your child, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. By turning meltdowns into learning moments, filling them with empowering words, and showing them the power of calmness, you’re giving your child a toolkit they’ll carry with them for life.
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Keep Calm and Parent On!
Coach SeTara, Your Parent EI Coach
